By JORDAN HATHAWAY
partygal23(at)aol.com

Why it is the ones who that don’t really have a chance are the ones who have the guts to say something?

On my daily walk to Dunkin’ Donuts to get my morning coffee before heading into work, I walk past the toothless man selling newspapers who says good morning to me every morning.

As I start walking towards the office, the man asks “Are you married or have a boyfriend?”

I think “Oh my gawd, here we go.” Instead of giving him one of my dirty looks (since I do have to see this man everyday), I lie and say I have a boyfriend.

He then tells me, “If it doesn’t work out you know where to find me.”

I wouldn’t go find him if we were the last two people on Earth.

But as I walk away I start thinking… why does this man have the guts to tell me — a perfect stranger — that he wants me when I can’t tell the people that I want that I want them?

I know I am not the only one who feels the same way. I’ve missed out on getting a few guys that I wanted all because I couldn’t tell them how I felt, and they went for the girls that had no problem telling them how they felt.

But that’s just not how who I am. I need the guy to make the first move. I will take it the rest of the way, but (call me old-fashioned) the first move has to be all him. He just has to ask if I want to hang out together, and then I will usually name the time and place. I just don’t want to be the one to ask because I am scared he will say no.

Maybe we all need to take a lesson from the toothless paper man. If you like or want to hang out with someone, maybe try to start something — and speak up. You never know they could be the future Mr. or Mrs. Right.

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