cactus i.v.

By MELODY
MyMelody4U(at)gmail.com
Recently on the news, there was a tragic story of a man from Long Island that tried desperately to get his girlfriend to not drive away from a party drunk. She unknowingly dragged him underneath the vehicle to his death. That story brought tears to my eyes because that one moment of stupidity changed […]

By MIKE M.
“You can do better than me.”
Raise your hand if you’ve ever said that before. Go ahead. Raise your hand — unless you’re reading this in a fairly public place. In that case, just think about raising your hand. Now, everyone that raised his or her hand, we’re going to […]

By Melody
MyMelody4U(at)gmail.com
My favorite thing in the world is laughing. I’m a goof ball with a loud personality. I have a hard time finding someone who can keep up with my antics. I rely on a close-nit circle of friends to let lose with. My best friend J is just as cocky and free as myself. […]

By Melody
MyMelody4U(at)gmail.com
The 3-month rule can make or break a relationship. In case you have not heard of the 3-month rule, I’ll fill ya in. When you start dating someone, there are a lot of times when people will alter their personalities to fit in with their partners. Whether it is dealing with some quirky […]

By Melody
MyMelody4U(at)gmail.com
I’m an observer of human interactions, great at predicting how people will react in new &and diverse crowds. This ability has allowed me to play matchmaker. Most every couple I have introduced has a lasting relationship, which makes me very happy. “Hind sight” would be my middle name if I could chose one. There […]

By Melody
MyMelody4U(at)gmail.com
Sometimes when you are in love, you compromise your needs for the wants and needs of the person you love. Sometimes you don’t regret your decision until the choice has been made and actions carried out. Who do you place at fault? Who can you blame? Recently I was made to question my own […]

By MELODY
Hey everyone!! Welcome all to my first article for cactus i.v. It’s Melody here at your service. Writing and advice are two of my better traits, and it is quite fitting that I will be here to offer any sex, love and relationship questions you may throw at me.Let’s see, where to begin? I […]

By MIKE M.
airdog06757(at)yahoo.com
[[Editor’s note: Jennifer is in the process of leaving the sex and relationships column, and cactusiv.com is looking for a new writer. So, for now, enjoy a string of guest writers until I announce someone permanent. And, heck, if you think you know about sex and relationships, drop me an email at cactusiv(at)gmail.com]]
I’m […]

By JENNIFER KARPIK
pshh_jenxownsx0@hotmail.com
You know how most people say you never know what you have until it’s gone? This weekend I experienced that… almost. Nothing was taken from me — I should really say no one — but a person almost was.
I’m not getting into the story behind it or the reason for this, but I […]

By JENNIFER KARPIK
pshh_jenxownsx0@hotmail.com
There are times when I forget about what the real problem of something is and focus on something else that can wait. It’s so easy to get caught up in what I think needs to happen or be done, and I totally lose my head. Everything important passes by, and I don’t even […]

By JENNIFER KARPIK
pshh_jenxownsx0@hotmail.com
I’m making this one short. No one’s perfect. Everyone knows that, — or so they should. Being in a relationship makes you think harder and love harder. You forgive and forget.
At least some of us do.
Things happen unexpectedly, you know, and sometimes they’re not meant to happen. One of you mess up and […]

By JENNIFER KARPIK
pshh_jenxownsx0@hotmail.com
My column is sex and relationships. Does that mean it always has to be about a romantic relationship? This week it’s not.
I’ve never had a close relationship with any of my brothers or sister [gosh that made me sound old].
My oldest brother was such a bad kid. Ever since 14, he was into […]

By JORDAN HATHAWAY
partygal23(at)aol.com
I hate dating. Why does it get harder as you get older? Think about it. In kindergarten, the opposite sex either had cooties or you threw something at them and they were your significant other. I knew in kindergarten that I had a boyfriend when he put his hands over my ears during […]

By JENNIFER KARPIK
pshh_jenxownsx0@hotmail.com
I never ever ever ever put my trust in anyone. Not for any reason. You really have to prove yourself to me and make me believe you’re as trustworthy as you seem. So when I begin to trust you, don’t give me reasons to question that. So you can guess i’m doing some […]

By JENNIFER KARPIK
pshh_jenxownsx0@hotmail.com
What if your in love with an addict? An addict of anything, but, plainly, we’re talking about drugs. And someone so close to you, they can just be around you and hurt you so badly just by a look. You could remember so clearly how they were once. Clean and sober, of course. […]

By JENNIFER KARPIK
pshh_jenxownsx0@hotmail.com
Someone I know told me that he always hurts someone close to him because it makes him feel better. But he doesn’t know why. And he also doesn’t know why the other person sticks around and takes it from him.
He explained it like this… take a married man and his wife. He always […]

By JENNIFER KARPIK
pshh_jenxownsx0@hotmail.com
I think having confidence in someone is one of the most important things in a relationship. Without confidence, you — or the other peson — don’t have the strength, physically or mentally, to do something you want. A relationship consists of two people. Obviously. The two people in that relationship should trust eachother, […]

By JENNIFER KARPIK
pshh_jenxownsx0@hotmail.com
Has anyone ever told you to push someone to do something they really want to do? Have you been that friend, boyfriend or girlfriend to be pushy? If no, you better start now.
My boyfriend is extraordinary. He’s one of those boys I never imagined I would even come close to dating. I thought […]

By JENNIFER KARPIK
pshh_jenxownsx0@hotmail.com
I’ve know more boys than you can count on both hands and feet. I’ve had more cliché moments than I should. I’ve been to the park and kissed the most extraordinary boys. I’ve been called more cute names than you can come up with.
I had still yet to be amazed.
I always meet someone […]

By JENNIFER KARPIK
pshh_jenxownsx0@hotmail.com
I’ve always thought if a boy didn’t kiss me goodnight, things wouldn’t work or something was wrong. I had yet to be proven wrong. Not that I was testing this theory, I guess you can call it that, but because simple life proved it to me. A simple boy changed my mind.
The (short) […]

By JORDAN HATHAWAY
partygal23(at)aol.com
Not being in a relationship yet sleeping with someone isn’t always the best situation for anyone. Someone will always want more or get hurt — but we do it anyway. It get even harder when the other person is already in a relationship with someone else. That’s when it all gets dirty — […]

By JENNIFER KARPIK
pshh_jenxownsx0@hotmail.com
How many boyfriends have you had? Can you count them all on one hand? The real question is: How many of them turned out to be the biggest jerks you have ever met? But what happens when you two break up, seven months pass, and that jerk becomes the most amazing person you […]

By JENNIFER KARPIK
pshh_jenxownsx0(at)hotmail.com
Let’s talk about lying. I guess it’s a typical topic, but we’re going to mention the lying that you don’t do. We’re going to cut to the chase: How many times have you looked at a boy [dating or just seeing] and simply said “kiss me”? I’ll speak for most girls when I […]

By ATARI JAY
dearatari(at)gmail.com
Hey, so I’m here to guest spot because I’ve got something to say. Relationships, what exactly defines one? Gosh, back in high school I remember being a “girlfriend” when a boy asked to hold my hand. [[I was slightly old fashioned]] PB & J boy [[Ed.’s note: see an older s&r column if […]

By ATARI JAY
dearatari(at)gmail.com
Sex and relationships – those are just some things I’ll be writing about this Saturday.
I must say good-bye to all my Wednesday readers. In a strong move, we’ve decided to cross-promote with eSensuality.com. In exchange of something he’s doing for us, I’m writing a weekly sex-based article for his site. I’m not sure […]

By JORDAN HATHAWAY
partygal23(at)gmail.com
While in CVS today, I ran into something that nearly knocked me off my feet. The stuff for Valentines Day is already out. It is three days after the New Year; does anyone else find this disturbing?
I’m not opposed to February 14, but why is it that we have to make a certain […]

By JORDAN HATHAWAY
Partygal23(at)aol.com
A few of us at the i.v. thought, “We have the lovey dovey side of sex and relationships; why not have the dirty truth about them, too?” I have been given the task of the latter.
Atari Jay has written her nice Christmas articles. I’m here to dump all over them (not really, but […]

By JORDAN HATHAWAY
Partygal23(at)aol.com
This is not a relationship article. I’m leaving that part up to Atari. But I have a question for you all because I know most of us go through the same thing: Why is it there’s always one person that we would do anything for?
Come on. Admit it. We all know we […]

By ATARI JAY
dearatari(at)gmail.com
Hey guys. I’m sorry, but this week’s column is going to be super short. I’ve been dealing with family issues and just absolutely couldn’t get around to a five-page article. I’m stopping by to wish my readers a merry holiday and luck under the mistletoe.
Last week I promised memories of the holidays […]

By ATARI JAY
dearatari(at)gmail.com
It’s the holiday season and I’ll excuse my readers for being busy, too busy to write me. I guess that leaves me free reign. P.S. I love that story because it’s the holidays and I’m crushing on the cutest boy. I call him Doodie Head [[PBJ boy from last week’s article]] and he […]